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 Ever
wonder why some people place a personal ad? Some are genuine
in their attempts to meet new, interesting people. They long for
that spark to be found and felt by both, when they talk, touch,
& kiss. Others try to shed old pains and mistrusts, so they
can heal online as they explore this new medium and broaden their
horizons. Finally we come to those that are just killing time. They
want to see what the response will be like, talk and get emails,
but never have any intention to go any further.
So, how do
you weed through this vast array of ads online and find the
perfect mate? There seems to be no easy answer. Some will say only
write to people that post a picture. Why? It could be ten years
old, or not even their own pic. It all comes down to trust and patience.
Trust your intuition and your "gut" reaction. When you
meet someone in the realworld, how they carry themselves, and react
or act is key to your decisions of exploring further. But, online
you only have this faceless persona, so you talk off-line, and see
what you can discern from their voice. Then after a time you decide
to meet.
Okay now
comes common sense time. It's widely accepted your first meeting
should not be at your place or theirs. It should be a public place,
well populated, and "common ground". Some say it should
not be a place you normally frequent. (If it doesn't work out you
won't be running into them later).
Unfortunately
there is no guidebook. A good idea is to take a friend along.
There is strength in numbers. It's a sad fact but not everyone online
is a "nice person". Read the headlines, and watch the
TV news, you have to be on your guard at all times anymore.
In short,
be safe, think with your head, not your heart. Always let someone
know when you are going to meet your new friend. Let them know where
you will meet them, at what time, when you expect to be home, etc..
NEVER RUSH INTO MEETING, and NEVER LET THEM PUSH YOU INTO MEETING!!!
A genuine person will understand going slow, and respect your wishes,
they may even feel less pressured themselves. Take your time, get
to know them. There is no hurry or deadline on love and romance.
In fact waiting is a great way to be sure, and to enjoy it more!
Of course I
could be wrong, I'm no expert..:) But just in case, Be Prepared
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